Many of us have been raised to think this is a bad thing , that we should always put others first.
The problem with putting someone else first is that unless that person is putting you first in a reciprocal fashion one hundred percent of the time, it is a downward spiral.
It may be a very slow one, but if you are not caring for your own needs first, you can end up at the bottom of the food chain, so to speak.
If you put others before yourself, everyone else will get taken care of and you will be last; and since there is always someone else who needs something, you will not only be last on the list, you may never get anything you need.
If you put yourself first, you can take care of your own needs quite quickly and then tend to others that need it.
The one time it is alright to put someone else before you is when you do so consciously.
This means that you carefully and selectively allow one or two people’s needs to come before your own, but then you firmly draw the line there so you do not end up at the bottom of your list.
Kinanthi Husodo-
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